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Unleash your inner beast 🐾 NYC’s kinkiest Friday night: pet play meets wrestling mats. Romp, tussle, purr or growl—plus a workshop to guide your animal instincts.
Friday, October 17
6 p.m. – 11 p.m.
Near Union Square, NYC (address in confirmation email)
Surrender is a wrestling play party, but all kinks and fetishes are welcome!
Your favorite kinky, queer wrestling party is back—this time with a tail-wagging twist: PET PLAY 🐾
Whether you’re a playful pup, a curious kitten, a mischievous bunny or just love the energy of the animal kingdom, tonight’s your chance to romp, wrestle and explore your inner creature. Dress-up encouraged—collars, ears, tails, harnesses, paw gloves, muzzles, masks… the more animalistic, the better.
🐕 New to pet play? Don’t miss the included pre-party workshop, where the instructor will guide you through the roles, dynamics and body language of pets and handlers. Learn how to embody your animal self, negotiate play and find your stride (or slink, or scamper) in the kink menagerie.
✨ Already in your beast mode? Strut your tail, practice your best purr or challenge a fellow creature on the mats.
💥 WHAT TO EXPECT:
💪 Open mat wrestling all night long — take down your prey, tussle with the pack, or let your handler show you off in style (or explore deeper with a kink tasting!)
🧠 Consent + safety briefings + intro lessons (perfect for first-timers, whether you’re new to wrestling, pet play or both)
🔥 Workshop: Pet Play 101 by Divine Tempest
🎁 Vendors: Elevated treats, flash tattoo, SW Survival Guide, Fantasy Features
🧸 Cuddle puddle room (designated smoke & chill zone) — perfect for curling up with fellow pets after a good romp
🛡️ Referees present to keep play consensual & safe
All types of fetish wrestling welcome: struggle play, primal grappling, BJJ, Judo, pins, rope wrestling, tickle fights, submission, fantasy, Zentai… The style is yours to choose. The vibe is RACK: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.
🌟 FIRST TIME WRESTLING?
You’re in the right place. The party begins with safety demos and consent primers, and our team of referees will be available all night to monitor the mats. Play is at your own risk, but our top priority is ensuring you have what you need to explore with confidence.
❤️ SAFETY, CONSENT & COMMUNITY
We have a zero tolerance policy for harassment or boundary violations. Consent is always mandatory. If anything feels off, speak to Katarina, GlittersaurusRex or one of our LED-armband consent monitors.
This is a welcoming space for all identities. Discrimination of any kind—including racism, transphobia, fatphobia, kink shaming or ableism—will not be tolerated.
🚫 Unfortunately, the venue is not wheelchair accessible.
🌡️ No-touch temperature checks will be taken at the door
🎟️ TICKETS & ACCESS
Online sales close: October 17 at 12 a.m. ET
Door tickets: $80 (register online to get the address + info)
No refunds
If you can’t make it, email theDommeKat@protonmail.com to have your ticket transferred to the next party (March 2026, TBA)
🎟️ Queer and transgender people of color and sex workers can request a pay-what-you-can code from Katarina. Limited number available.
🎁 Want to help make the party more accessible? Add a donation to support community ticketing.
🛑 Reminder:
Surrender Parties are intended for educational and entertainment purposes. All activities are consensual, respectful and professionally guided. Attendees participate at their own risk and agree to take personal responsibility for their well-being.
Be part of the Surrender community! Follow @SurrenderParties on Fetlife for announcements, answers to FAQs and more!
Updates regarding our merch
Due to Etsy’s new policy on adult or “mature” products, our butt plugs are no longer available in our Etsy store. Please email SWSurvivalGuide@protonmail.com to order the plugs or see us when we pop up in person at events, like Surrender.
Our rosaries are offered in 7 color variations now!
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SW Survival Guide is a non-profit that was co-founded in 2021 by Katarina “The Domme Kat” Pierce, Tiana “GlittersaurusRex” and Dr. Ash Dark. Proceeds from merch sales goes toward keeping our community education FREE — because Survival Shouldn’t Be A Luxury!
